How to orgasm? Before offering you our advice on how to reach orgasm, we must define that we are talking about a maximum state of pleasure or an intense stage of sexual arousal in which a set of changes and bodily reactions are experienced by releasing the tension of the body and genitals, by the stimulation of erogenous zones. It can be achieved alone, as a couple or with other people.
It most commonly occurs during masturbation or anal, oral, or vaginal sex, among other practices. For this, you or someone else must stimulate your genitals through touch or rubbing; with their hands, mouth, or any other part of the body in general. That is why it is important that you dare to express clearly what you like, what you don't like or even ask the other person if you are in company.
Enhance the Stimulation
In addition to the reproductive organs, there are other areas that depending on each person, may be more sensitive to arousal, which would help or could enhance the stimulation to orgasm.
People with a vagina usually reach the peak when they stimulate their clitoris, an organ located inside the vagina and visible from the top of the vulva. Among the tips on how to reach orgasm is not to limit yourself to just that point. You can play with other parts of the vulva, vagina, penetrating, also the anus just like people who have a penis. However, they usually stimulate their penis and/or testicles. Some people can reach orgasm by stimulating only their breasts and nipples or other parts of the body.
If your goal is to share with one or more people, keep in mind that consent is important. Feeling safe and comfortable with the situation and what is being done, relaxes the body and gives space to concentrate on giving and receiving pleasure.
The recommendation if you want to enjoy alone with yourself, is to let your imagination run wild and explore your body in complicity with you. You could even include sex toys, many are designed to offer specific and varied stimuli and could be of great help to get you where you want to go.
Signs of an Orgasm
Although every body is different, there are some general signs that are common during orgasm. With the intense surge of pleasure, the muscles of the genitals, both the vagina and penis and those of the anus, contract about once per second and about five to eight times. The sensation is like squeezing and relaxing at the same time. It is also normal for your heart rate to speed up; you will feel your heartbeat getting faster and faster as your breathing becomes agitated or choppy.
As for ejaculation, it can be present before orgasm or not, since you can reach your peak of pleasure without ejaculating. When it does occur, the penis expels several jets of semen. The amount varies according to sexual tension and the state of each person's body at that moment. It is different in the vagina. Depending on the level of arousal, they can become very wet and in some cases a fluid that is not urine comes out. This is known as squirt.
Not all women or people with vulvas experience squirting; some do and some don't, in both cases it's fine. There is nothing wrong with it. Although they can be interesting or intense experiences and sensations; that should not be the goal. In pornography and adult movies, the expulsion of fluids has been promoted as a total indicator of pleasure and it's not, it's a misconception. Focusing only on that can harm your enjoyment and enjoyment of the moment, besides distracting you from your comfort and conditions that facilitate reaching orgasm.
Everyone experiences orgasms differently and even the way you feel them can be different each time. Sometimes more intense than others; faster or slower. Try not to put pressure on yourself and just enjoy the process and the moment. Dare to try these tips on how to reach orgasm.
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